And In A Blink Of An Eye, The Baby Turned 21-Happy 21st Birthday Zack
Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!
You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You’re on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go….
Walt Disney once said “It’s kind of fun to do the impossible” and never was that more true than 21 years ago today when an impossible dream became a reality when on September 22, at 5:23 pm Zachary Alexander “Fred Astaire” Turner danced his way into this world-although a little bit early at 28 weeks. Fred, you were the miracle, the one that “could never be” but yet there you were, proof that dreams can come true when you have the power to believe.We all knew from the beginning that you were brought into our lives for a reason and every second that goes by, you are living proof of just that. From the little boy that could act out the entire “Fantasmic” show on top of the coffee table in full Mickey garb to the amazing young man you are today, dancing your way through life, you touch the lives of every person you come into contact with your gentle soul and have changed us all in so many ways. Now as you know it has always been the Turner sibling tradition to help guide the “next one down” through the ritual and the right of passage and all that goes with turning 21 in this family and so I will now turn it over to Heather, Kevin, Jason and Thumper because while you may be 21 today and all that implies, to them you are still the baby.
Zack, you are turning 21. While you were technically an adult at 18, practice time is over and the training wheels are being removed. Stuff gets real from here on out. Lucky for you your 3 older siblings have made plenty of mistakes for you to learn from and remember since you are an adult now you can no longer say to us “Be Nice To the Baby”
So here are some words of advice and wisdom from your older and wiser siblings… ok we think we are wiser that is up for debate I am sure.
- Make use of the compound effect. Retirement may seem like a long ways off but the sooner you start putting money away, the more time you have for the compound effect to work for you. Along the same lines, if your employer offers a matching 401k, take full advantage of it even if you need to cut back on spending elsewhere (it’s basically like earning a 100% return on investment.) You have a brother who is an expert in this kind of stuff so ask questions.
- The house always wins, ALWAYS! “But wait, I have a system!” No, you don’t, it’s been done before and it didn’t work then either. There’s a reason casino owners are billionaires. So go and enjoy the roller coaster ride but don’t bring more that you are prepared to lose and if you gamble away all your rent money make sure you have a good excuse already prepared why you cannot come up with rent for that month.
- Take risks and try new things. Get out and see the world (circling the Epcot World Showcase doesn’t count but its a start.) You’re young so if you screw up you have plenty of time to learn from your mistakes and try again you will not learn unless you try.
- Avoid debt if at all possible, by all means have and use credit cards but pay them off and don’t pay them off late that means you have a late fee and that can end up being more that what you owed to begin with. The less debt you acquire when you are young the less you have to payoff. See the compounding effect it’s like that but in reverse.
- Have fun but me smart about it. Making mistakes and doing stupid things make for great stories later in life. As long as nobody gets hurt, arrested, or videos it (we were lucky there were not really cell phones so no evidence of the past but you have to worry about that now because once its recorded it lasts forever nothing ever gets erased or vanishes in thin air). The story can always get better at time goes on and it usually does. We all have our stories and you will have yours so have fun creating them. And remember if you create these fun memories and stories and your brothers and sister are there we will never let you forget or live it down
- Stay active and eat healthy once in a while. It is a lot harder to lose weight and get back in shape when you are older hence the reason your siblings all have a keg and not a 6 pack. Stay healthy now and again the compounding effect takes over.
- Wear sunscreen.
- Sometimes it is good to spend a little extra to get higher quality stuff because in the end you end up buying three times as much of the cheap stuff and it costs you more and I am sure it has something to do with compounding effect but that is Kevin and Jason’s department
- When you change your tires you do not change only 1 or 3 you change 2 or 4 and make sure you rotate them so they wear evenly.
- Drinking on an empty stomach or mixing your drinks = trouble and good stories
- Open your eyes and your ears and take in the world around you and learn all you can. I know you think you know it all and that no one can tell you what to do because you are smarter than everyone else but trust us you are not which leads us to the most important thing to remember…
- Mom always knows!!!!!! You may think you have gotten one over on her but she knows and even knows before you have done whatever it is that you should not have done. The downside to being the baby…. you have older brothers and sister and we have probably already done it and tried to get away with it and in the end we did not but we sure had fun trying.
Always remember that no matter what “We Love you Merry Christmas 1999” and are so very happy to you older brothers and sister.
It seems so cliché’ to say time passes in a blink of an eye-I blinked once and we were celebrating your first birthday. I blinked again, and you were off to school. And as days turned to months and months turned to years, you grew and transformed before our eyes, growing into the young man you’ve become today- a person who leaves me in awe with your compassion, your ability to love and the ability to give of yourself so unconditionally. While each of life’s milestones brought something new and exciting along the way, this birthday milestone is unlike the others, and is breaking my heart just a tiny little bit and although turning 18 is supposed to be the milestone when you become an adult, turning 21 makes it real. Turning 21 doesn’t really come with a handbook. You’re the same person you were 24 hours ago, except now you drink-legally that is. You will find out, as you already have that there is no There is no right way and no wrong way to live your life. It’s about the journey and sometimes you might take a wrong turn or two and maybe even find yourself lost but the most important thing to remember is that you always have the ability to continue along the way, or at times, change directions and chart a new path for yourself
- And while we’re at it-you don’t have to have it all figured out by 21 or 31 or 41 or 51 or 61-so don’t be afraid to take risks Don’t be afraid to take risks because the only way you can fail is to not take a chance.
- Always remember that no matter what life may bring, or how bad it may seem, there is always good to be found through it all and something to laugh about-you just have to take the time to look. Always remember that tomorrow is another day, a fresh start, full of opportunities and hope.
- Treat people with kindness and respect no matter how they treat you because in the end, they are the ones that need it the most.
- The words “Please” and “Thank You” are the key to living life.
- Laugh, smile, giggle and rejoice each and every day because life truly is a gift and blessing waiting to be lived to the fullest and more importantly, don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself.
- Over the years you will continue to surprise yourself over and over again find courage and strength from deep within yourself that you never knew you had. Always believe in yourself and know that you were put on this earth to accomplish great and wonderful things
- And no matter what, your family, is ALWAYS here for you –through the good times and through the not so good because being in this family means unconditional love and support-no matter what.
It’s hard for me to come to terms with the fact that this birthday means that last of my babies has finally reached “that” age. You have grown into an incredible young man with a heart filled with compassion for all you meet, and yet still believe in the magic that you are surrounded by, As of today, although we all know you will always be my baby, today is that right of passage when you become an adult in every sense of the word and all the comes with and the world is out there as you make your impact on it, and all of those lucky enough to be a part of your life. The one certainty is that whatever direction life takes you; the world will be a better place because of you.
Like your sister and brothers, you are not just an amazing son, but also an incredible human being. You bear the strength of conviction, honesty, and most of all, an inner self-confidence and someone I always have and always will truly admire you. Your talents never cease to astonish me-your eyes see beauty where sometimes mine see nothing. You see the good in everyone and every situation. Your mind has the gift to create, and your body moves to the music like no one is watching. When you smile the world lights up around you. You are, in a word, magic.Fred, you are the miracle, the proof that dreams and wishes can and do come true, and today, on this, your 21 birthday, I wish for you the sun, the moon, the stars, and all of the magic that the world holds-and a little bit more. I wish for you the life you were born and meant to live. I wish for you all of the beauty of the world and the strength to see you through-no matter what life has in store for you. Always believe in the possibilities, live your dreams! Reach for the stars-they are out there waiting just for you! No matter where life takes you, always know that first, foremost and always, I will always be your mommy.
You, Heather, Kevin, Jason and Thumper have made all of my dreams some true. Now I wish for you the same-dare to dream, live your life and don’t merely exist in it and Believe….and miracles will happen. Here’s to 21 Fred. With more love than you can ever imagine – All our love-and a little bit more-Mommy, Heather, Kevin, Jason and Thumper
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life’s
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.
And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)
KID, YOU’LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O’Shea,
You’re off the Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So…get on your way!